Men who cheat No Means Love
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If you are swept up in an affair, do not expect the affair turned into true love. The reason, generally men will not change the story of his affair into a meaningful love notes for him.
According to psychologist Dr. Sam J Buser, who is also the author of The Guys-Only Guide, said, usually women began to ask her cheating spouse of the direction of the relationship. In fact, most men just want to clear an affair and did not want to bring the relationship into a more serious stage. There are a number of reasons which reinforce men have similar stance:
1. Reality shows the affair was never leads to long-term relationship.
Some research shows, the affair almost never turn into a long term relationship. Only 1 from 10 affairs which later turned into a serious commitment. Even if the relationship turned into a love story, this commitment ultimately ended in divorce. Why? This is because couples lose confidence. Couples who are committed after having an affair will not trust each other because it is based on previous experience that they had ever had an affair.
2. Infidelity is a virtual relationship, rather than the real thing.
Many men who left a career, children and families in pursuit of sexy women who became her cheating spouse. But in the end, men do counseling with a professional to fix the mess his life. Men realize that the affair did not just bring life increasingly targeted. The affair became an escape from the chaotic condition of marriage.
Dr. Buser said, while men do the counseling, it is then recommended by experts is to find a solution to marital problems. If there is no common ground to save the marriage, divorce is the answer, but continues relationships with friends having an affair does not necessarily become the next solution.
“Marriage and infidelity is like apples and oranges. In the affair, you do not communicate with parents, not paying bills together, and not raise a child together. You would not know it was married to someone until you marry her,” said Dr. Buser.
3. Children will not approve cheating spouse
Men tend to not continue the affair into a committed relationship because it believed her children would not receive her cheating spouse. Dr. Buser said you could never hide the affair forever from the children. As children get older, they will read the changes to the life his parents. Rarely see parents making out a sign that a child could understand. Children are growing up can also identify signs that parents no longer have sex. Girls also tend to be difficult to forgive a father who was having an affair.
“The girl will feel betrayed if knowing his father had an affair,” said Dr. Buser.
If he can not continue the affair firmly to a long-term relationship, you, as women, would also have the same power.
